Comments on: Waiting for Permission http://whatgodwantsforyourlife.com/wordpress/?p=432 Finding Answers to the Deepest Questions Thu, 29 May 2014 16:05:31 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=3.8.41 By: Jill http://whatgodwantsforyourlife.com/wordpress/?p=432&cpage=1#comment-638 Sat, 10 Jul 2010 07:55:00 +0000 http://whatgodwantsforyourlife.com/wordpress/?p=432#comment-638 Yes to all blogged with one caveat. Sometimes we need to ask for what we need. That doesn’t necessarily mean we will receive that love or permission or approval that we are communicating to another that we need. However, to live a more healthy relationship with another is to share our needs and in turn hone our listening skills for what others need from us (i.e. love, approval, confirmation of their self approval – is that authentication?) and being courageous enough to meet those needs.

My parents are still alive. I still have the opportunity to broaden our relationship by teaching them new behavior(s) of better relating to others in general by listening and risking new emotional relational gifts such as giving permission to another (if that is needed), approval/pride in another’s endeavors (it doesn’t diminish what you have accomplished), or just plain old love (it’s not a finite resource). The same teaching is reciprocated to and from the children of our family(third generation) and laterally to and from siblings, etc…

Maybe by asking for what you need, you are actually stretching each other’s boundaries and providing an opportunity to deepen an ongoing/existing relationship not only for the two of you but so that you and that other person can then apply newly learned communication techniques to other relationships.

Isn’t that what the journey is all about? Growing, changing and continuing to stretch boundaries into spaces/places that are healthy but maybe not yet experienced via communicating your needs? Hmmmm… just a thought.

So, ask first and if no response, stop waiting!? Maybe?

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